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Q: I still have 15 lbs left from the 35 I gained during pregnancy. Over the weekend, I cleared my closet of all the stuff I cannot wear any more (I kept what I still liked and hope to get back into once I resume my exercise regimen and threw away a whole bunch of things that didn't do it for me any more). So literally, I have about 10 hangers of things that fit me right now (and will most likely be doing some shopping.) Please let me know of your suggestions. I am 5'3" and 130 lbs right now, small waist, wider hips and thighs (arms look good!). I live in Hawaii in a beach town, so put together casual is the style I'm going for. - Sarah
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Sarah submitted the above style dilemma to both me and her friend Kiki at Psyched for Style. So we joined forces! Today we are each answering Sarah's question.  As soon as you're done here, click the Psyched logo at right to get Kiki's take on Sarah's post-pregnancy style.  Thanks, Kiki!
A: Dear Sarah - First, congratulations on your new baby! I have 3 little daughters of my own and I'm sure yours is just as sweet.  And considering how young she is in the adorable photo you sent - kudos to you for losing that chunk of baby weight so quickly!
I've spent the last 3 years either pregnant or cuddling a newborn so I know what you're going through and hope I can be of some assistance.  Post-pregnancy style can be super tough. You're exhausted and not quite yourself in more ways than just physically.  But I'm a firm believer that being a mom makes you a better version of your former self and no matter how many middle of the night feedings you endure, liking what you see in the mirror helps you project that inner happiness a little further. 
So let's get down to the nitty gritty.

Sarah sent pictures of everything she fits into right now.  I went and found versions I could use in Polyvore as similar to her clothes as possible. Click any of the polyvore's for larger pictures and details.  
A couple of things to keep in mind:
1. You don't need a lot of clothes to look and feel good.  It doesn't matter if you wear the same outfit over and over.  Who cares? As long as you look and feel good.  So while you're getting back to a weight you're comfortable with, make the clothes that fit you work overtime.
2.  Keep it sleek and simple!  With a new baby, the last thing you need is fussy style.  In the collages below I went for outfits, shoes and accessories that were easy to get around in, and work multiple ways. In fact, I lost count of how many different ways you could pair everything!
3.  Accessories make any wardrobe feel fresh.  They're inexpensive ways to get a completely new look. Slip on a bold necklace or cuff bracelet and earrings and you'll be simply stylish in a jiffy.
4.  Shoes make the look!  You're hauling a diaper bag with you, so rotating a bunch of purses into your outfits is impractical.  But shoes?  SHOES make all the difference.  They take a simple tank and shorts to a whole new level.  Your existing wardrobe is quite simple (mostly knit tees, tanks and dresses) so add some oomph with your footwear and jewelry instead of going out and getting a bunch of button down blouses.
I don't know what shoes and accessories you own so raid your closet before going shopping to create something similar to the micro-collection below. Everything pictured can be found currently, nothing is over $100, and most items are on sale.
  • I suggest the metallic wedge sandals first because they'll give you nice long legs and are neutral - they'll go with everything you have and might purchase in the future. The not-too-high/not-too-low wedge makes it easy to get around with a baby and the metallic adds polish to upgrade you to that put-together casual you're planning on. 
  • Another heeled sandal or two in a bright color will also elevate any of the outfits you put together.  I chose red, orange and yellow because they complement all the colors of clothes you already own.
  • Simple, oversize crystal earrings go with everything but also look snazzy.
  • The bold necklaces and bracelets pack a lot of punch without having to pile on the accessories. 
  • The pops of color or sparkle in the shoes and accessories pull the attention to where you want it - those nice arms, shoulders, small waist and legs! We'll take the focus off your hips. They've done good work and deserve a break.
Here are a few suggestions using just 4 accessories. 
You could also put the crystal necklace and earrings with the all-white outfit and pop it with some colorful shoes!  Or do the same with one of your black tanks, black capris and head out for the evening. Monochrome with pops of color looks very put-together, even if the clothes themselves are casual.
Here are some color combinations you might not have considered.
Gray and white together are surprisingly chic. With the silver/crystal accessories and a bold shoe - fantastic!  A contrasting shoe with any of your sundresses is something you'd look great in every time you step out the door.  And bright blue and orange are a very happy combo! The wooden bracelet echos the earthy tones of the olive cargo capris.
Like I said, I lost track of all the outfit options you have.  I could have created 5 more collages but I'd have had mutiny on my hands with my own daughters.  So here are a few more suggestions:
  • I'm assuming you have a pair of black heels.  Hopefully something above a flip-flop/below a stiletto that you can wear during the day. Pair any of your black and white items together for a simple and chic combo.  Make it dressier with the crystal/silver accessories, slightly more casual with the colored accessories.
  • Your maxi dresses and sundresses are great for showing off all the parts of yourself you're happy with.  And don't be afraid to bust out that black Grecian dress.  It doesn't have to be reserved for date night. Colorful accessories, not too-fancy shoes, a slightly un-done ponytail and you're good to go anywhere. (Never be afraid to look better than everyone else!)
  • Your pink tops are inherently feminine - pair them with your tougher cargo capri's and a yellow, black or metallic shoe. I love the juxtaposition of masculine and feminine. If you have a studded sandal or belt - throw that in the mix! 
  • Nautical color pairings are always a nice look - your blue shirts and white shorts work well, but pick any of the other shoes besides red or you'll cross over into Independence Day territory.
  • I don't know how cold it'll get in Hawaii this fall and winter, but a bright cardigan (maybe violet? yellow? or light blue?) would look great with your coloring and work with all the neutral items you already own. 
  • You mentioned you planned on doing some shopping after a few more pounds were lost, so I'd suggest looking for a structured skirt to throw into the mix.  A dark pencil skirt would add miles and miles to your wardrobe. (Not too tight and hemmed to your knees and it'll add miles to your legs as well!) With a t-shirt and sandals it's a cut above shorts and capris.  With your sparkly black tank and heels it's perfect for fancy date night! (Use those crystal/silver accessories!)
I hope this was helpful.  Thank you so much for asking a great question!  This was the first post-pregnancy style dilemma I've received.  I'm having fun working on the answer to your second question about traveling with a diaper bag.  Goodness, I haven't gone anywhere without mine since 2007! Look for that soon!
And the rest of you, don't forget to click over to Psyched for Style!
 
 
Today is the final part of the answer to the following question submitted to Ask Image Interpreters:  I am going on a two week trip to Europe but do not want to lug a heavy bag. What and how much would you suggest I take. I always take way too much and still have nothing to wear. I am going to Germany and Switzerland in June...
A follow-up question to my first answer asked for recommendations for her husband traveling with her so that's what we're covering today.  And at the end, I have two items for the ladies that I forgot in the last post, as well as a few other questions to answer.

The luggage, packing tools, and packing tips we covered in the last post count for the men as well.  My husband and I have no problem fitting both our things in a single carry-on.  It means only the addition of his jacket, toothbrush, one pair of undies, neck pouch, and reading material.

Here are wardrobe items to avoid...
No matter how old or young you are, there's no need to profess your undying love for your favorite team while traveling.  And unless you're one of our amazing soldiers heading to or from active duty, camo print is not appropriate either.
 
Here are some suggestions for traveling in comfort and style.  Remember - it's the type and # of item that is important.  Raid your closet before you go shopping.
For a summer trip like this one, men should take one to two more shirts than their female counterparts and a few more pairs of socks.  Men tend to sweat more than women and the extra shirt and socks are helpful. 
  • A lightweight, waterproof jacket.  Pack this in the carry-on.
  • A casual sport coat.  Gives you that stylish bump that so many men are missing nowadays, and fits the bill if you decide to seek out a fancy restaurant for dinner. Wear this on the plane.
  • 5 to 6 shirts.  They don't all have to be long-sleeved dress shirts.  Linen travels wonderfully, cotton polos as well.  A baseball style t-shirt is casual without being schlumpy.  Shirts with a little stretch help you avoid ironing.
  • 2 pants.  My husband often skips the jeans and packs a pair of dark trousers with the chinos.  If you're a shorts guy - pack tailored bermudas over cargo or jean shorts.
  • 1 pj. You never know when you might need to run down the hall for ice!
  • 5 to 6 socks.  Fewer if you're packing sandals.
  • 5 to 6 underwear.
  • A hat you would wear on a hot day.
  • Sunglasses, watch, and belt.
  • If you're planning on fancier restaurants or activities, slip a tie in your bag!  
  • The same neck pouch I suggested for the women.  Your wallet in your pocket can be too easily pilfered.  
  • Nook-style neck pillow as suggested previously.
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Both shoes at DSW.com
A loafer & sneaker-style casual shoe.
For some reason, the shoes didn't want to show up properly in my collage.  So here they are.  A comfortable loafer makes it easy to negotiate security at the airport.  A sneaker-style lace-up covers the casual side of your outfits but still looks nice.

A word on athletic sandals!  There are definitely viable sandal options out there for men but if you plan on wearing them - you better make sure your feet are viewer worthy.  There's zero shame in getting a pedicure, at the very least, your wife can help you tidy up your tootsies.
For your dopp kit - refer to the suggestions in the last post, minus the feminine specific items. 

Two things I forgot in the last post...
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DKNY Smoothies - $15 Nordstrom

For the women... Bike Shorts!! 
In my first answer last week to this question, I promised you a tip for how to wear skirts when traveling and I forgot to include it.  Bike shorts (without the authentic seat padding) are a skirt's best friend. They make it easier to sit and you don't have worry about gusts of wind flashing your fancies to the public.  If it's really hot out... skip the bike shorts and enjoy the breeze! 
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Travel-size bottle of Febreze!!
They're making progress, but European's still smoke quite a bit.  A little spray bottle of Febreze eliminates the stink lickety split!  Just spritz your clothes at night and the next morning you'll be good to go.
A few answers to questions I received from the previous posts.
  1. Yes, it's fine to get a TSA approved luggage lock.  I haven't yet, because I bought my luggage before those came out.  I just leave it unlocked during travel and lock it at the hotel.  With my passport in it!
  2. Travel candles are sometimes more trouble than they're worth. It's handy that they come in little tins with lids and they definitely help in musty or odd-smelling hotel rooms.  But you're not supposed to pack lighters and TSA agents often confiscate matches as well.  So that leaves you hunting for something at your destination.  If you're worried about being sensitive to smells, pack a TS spray freshener.
I hope you found this 3-part answer helpful.  It was so much fun to write and I hope you have a fantastic trip!
 
 
Definitely more of a delay than I wanted between the first Traveling in Style post and this sequel but, rather than write a million words, I wanted to do a vlog showing you how to pack and this morning we finally had time to film.   

Part One covered WHAT to pack, avoiding typical tourist clothing traps, and escaping the pitfalls of over-packing.  Today we're covering HOW to pack it all and by further request, Part 3 will cover the Men's Edition of what to pack.

The essential luggage pieces to cover almost any travel scenario are:
  •  24" to 27" expandable wheeled upright
  • 20" expandable wheeled carry-on
  • boarding tote
For a two-week Europe trip you should be able to comfortably pack in the small rolling suitcase and carry-on tote. Some people like a wheeled duffel because they flatten nicely for storage, but I find them much harder to pull.  And they're not very stylish.  I toss my tote into my carry-on, the carry-on into the big upright, and they store beautifully.

In case you're wondering about what luggage to invest in, my favorite brand is Briggs & Riley, not that they even know I exist.  They have a lovely life-time guarantee.  No matter what happens to your bag, your fault, my fault, nobody's fault, they repair it. If you're fast, you can score that great little Boarding Tote for less than $100.  It's been discontinued, which is a shame. My 20" carry-on that you'll see in the video is a Tumi I picked up on a great sale and it's been a champ. 

The above three items have been my packing best friends for many years. 
(Above are the versions currently available.) 
  • The absolutely indispensable - Eagle Creek Packing Envelope.  Purchase the size that will fit in your smallest suitcase.  Mine is an 18".
  • Eagle Creek Packing Cube.  It's double sided, with one side lined to hold wet or dirty clothes. Comes in half and quarter sizes as well.
  • Tri-fold, vinyl covered, hanging toiletry kit.  Counter space can be hard to come by in some hotel bathrooms, so the ability to hang your kit and have everything handy is crucial.
Before you watch the video, don't forget, you're wearing one of your complete outfits when you fly out.  There is no separate "airplane outfit".  What you wear comes from the items I suggested yesterday. 

And now I'm proud to present... my hands!

Fascinating, right?  Thoughts on hair tools.  On one of my trips to Germany several years ago, I hit my wall where adapters were concerned.  No matter how much I spent, they all burned out my curling irons or fell out of the plugs. So I walked to the nearest apothecary and grabbed the inexpensive blow dryer/curling brush combo you just saw.  Reaching my limit with the adapters also brought an epiphany that I didn't need to do anything but my simplest hairstyle when I was traveling.  For me, that meant washing it at night and using the dryer/curler to put a sleek bend in the ends in the morning.  It was life altering, that epiphany. And I've never spent a dime on another adapter.  Today, you can find hairdryers with European plugs on Amazon for around $40. 
True traveling nirvana.  Now back to the show...
Before our final vlog, I should point out that the 2 year old you're about to hear made off with my sunglasses, hat, camera case, and snacks.  So don't forget to put those in your carry-on as well!  I also didn't flash my underwear around in the video, but it's smart to tuck a pair in there (packing the other 4 pair in your cube).  When my luggage didn't make it to Poland until the day after I did, I was glad I had that pair of undies.

Am I serious about the snacks?  Definitely! Just a few energy bars, an apple and sandwich.  It's a long flight! Airport food can be fatty and expensive.  And you REALLY don't want to be stuck buying the limited airplane offerings if you're not flying at least business class.  You'll also notice I didn't put in any water.  Can't get past TSA with it unless it's sealed so purchase it after you get through security.  But definitely get some!  Dehydration makes jetlag much worse.
I'm about to use the initials TS a lot.  It stands for "travel size."  And all soaps or liquids should be in ziplock baggies.  Contains the leaks, easy to rinse out.

In your toiletry kit you should pack:
  • TS body wash or bar soap & net scrubby
  • TS shampoo and conditioner (don't count on each hotel having them)
  • Body butter (never leaks, unlike lotion, and a little goes a long way)
  • TS hair gel (or whatever product you use for your simplest hairstyle)
  • Sunscreen!
  • TS toothpaste & floss
  • Deodorant
  • Nail file or small nail clippers
  • A few Q-tips
  • A few band-aids for walking blisters
  • Razor & TS size shaving cream
  • Small pkg of powdered laundry soap. These are easy to find at a laundromat or drug store. Even gas stations! I few sprinkles in the sink and you'll have clean undies & socks.
  • In addition to this Stila Combo-Eye pen and mascara that you saw, I carry one other eyeshadow (a cream bronze that goes with everything) and SPF tinted moisturizer.  You can add in concealer, blush, and lipstick/gloss, but traveling is not the place for your red-carpet face.  Fresh and simple is easy to do and looks best in pictures.
  • Supplies to deal with your monthly friend if necessary.
  • Any medications you're currently taking, including for seasonal allergies. Germany & Switzerland will be in full pollen bloom!
  • Imodium - for undesirable food episodes.  (Hello - oysters in Belgium!)
  • And finally, my Super-Duper-Jetlag-Slaying Travel Cocktail... Benadryl and Excedrin. The Benadryl taken at night helps you sleep in the new time zone, and the Excedrin in the morning wakes you up and takes care of any little headaches from the jetlag or unfamiliar bed.  Take that combo the first few days and before you know it - you'll be acclimated!  If you already use sleeping pills, then take those instead of the Benadryl.  Better traveling through chemistry, I say!
Final points to consider.
  • If you don't freeze easily, you can eliminate the sweater layer.  The pashmina & lightweight trench will have you covered.
  • Someone asked about an umbrella.  Sure, TS sized ones are easy to pack but for me they often end up never leaving my hotel.  Invariably, it'll be sunny when we head out and won't rain until later.  My trench keeps me from getting soaked.
  • Make sure your camera is charged & the memory is clear!
  • Make sure you have your passport.
  • Pack AT LEAST the day before.  It'll help you remember things.
  • Check in online, even if you don't print out your boarding pass.
  • I sometimes get asked why I don't take a purse to "hide" my camera in. Because a purse is a bigger target than a camera! In one fell swoop everything could be stolen, not JUST my camera.  The neck pouch I discussed last time keeps everything tucked away and I just watch out for my camera.  I'd hate to have it stolen but it is much easier to replace than my credit card and ID.
  • Have a flexible itinerary.  It is smart to plan out what you'll be doing and where you'll be staying on your trip, but take your guidebook with you so that if something catches your eye or a local refers you to something, you can make a little detour.
  • Pack a deck of cards in your carry-on.  Because when you travel... you travel!  If the plane is delayed, don't stress out.  Things will happen.  Reservations will be "lost", trains will be missed (are you catching all my personal experience here?) and it's ok.  It's an excuse for another round of cards, or another chapter in your book, or more people watching.  
 
 
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Rhine Valley - Germany

Q: I am going on a two week trip to Europe but do not want to lug a heavy bag. What and how much would you suggest I take. I always take way too much and still have nothing to wear. I am going to Germany and Switzerland in June...and need advice from my expert niece.
I know I said spring style tips would follow up our masculinity series, but I had to stop the presses!  A question about traveling was submitted to Ask Image Interpreters and even if it hadn't come from my dear Aunt, I'd have still answered it before posting anything else.  Hello! It deals with traveling! A favorite topic of mine and one of the extraordinarily few areas I call myself somewhat of an expert, especially considering where she's going. (Germany is my second home!)  So let's get to the fun!

A: You are correct - most people over-pack to the extreme when taking a trip abroad, resulting in those heavy bags to lug. I did too until I learned the art of Travel Packing Zen. I often hear, "But I have to pack for every contingency because I don't know what we might do!"  To which I say, "Really? Is your itinerary a secret? Someone else is planning this trip for you?"  The truth is, you know exactly what kind of trip you're going to have - whether you'll be hitting the foreign nightclubs, hiking the Matterhorn, or chilling on a beach.  The only real question mark you have to address is the weather.  And we're going to address that. In this 2-post answer, we're going to first cover WHAT to pack and then HOW to pack it.
We're starting with the DON'T take items because I want to get those out of the options pile as quickly as possible.
Do not pack the above items!  Any of these combined together screams "clueless American tourist!"  You're touring beautiful European cities, not hiking the Appalachian Trail. The goal is to be comfortable while traveling, look chic doing it, and avoid over-packing.
  • If you're an avid exerciser training for a marathon and must get in a 5 mile run every day, then pack your running shoes.  But that's the only time you get to wear them! And if that description doesn't fit you, then let the hours of walking work their magic.  Even at a "strolling around the piazza pace", I never fail to lose at least 5 lbds.
  • Fanny/waist packs - aside from being hideous, they're a magnet for thieves.  Don't carry a backpack, either.  Things on your back just make it easier for pick-pockets in a crowd. (Just ask my Mom!)                                                     

Now the DO take items!  (click to view the larger collage and item details)
It is the number and type of items in the above collage that are most important.  Raid your own closet before you do any shopping.  Nobody in Europe has ever seen your wardrobe before.  Note that everything coordinates. You'll have lots of options from minimal items.
If you do need to shop, almost everything in this collage is currently available.  Especially the trenchcoat for $39 at Nordstrom right now! Also comes in black.
  • 4 to 5 tops: Do not choose only tees.  Button-down and polo shirts are still casual but look dressier and offer more variety. And for a two week trip 4 or 5 will be plenty. And while you might be tempted to pack all black - don't! Injecting some color will make you look better in the pictures you'll take.
  • 1 cardigan: This should be long sleeve and ideally cashmere, or a blend thereof.  It's perfect for the plane and fluctuating temps.  
  • 1 jacket:A lightweight short trench coat is perfect! It won't add bulk to your bag or your body.  For a summer trip you're mostly wanting it for occasional chilly breezes, cold airplanes and rain.  The weather high in Switzerland can be much different from spots in Germany.  It can get hot!
  • 3 bottoms: The darkest wash jean you own, khakis, and a light skirt are the most versatile.  That brown linen skirt is at Victoria's Secret right now for $40! (I'll have a tip for you tomorrow about wearing your skirt.) You might prefer a black trouser to a dark jean, or olive khaki's to tan ones, but stay in the neutral family.
  • 2 shoes: This is where most people make the biggest mistake by taking too many or taking only gym shoes.  My travel shoes are shiny black slip-ons with a slightly thicker sole. They're by no means the nicest looking pair in my closet, but they work like a charm getting me through airport security lines and hours of walking.  Since it's a summer trip - you'll be wise to pack a pair of sturdy sandals.  NOT flip-flops! If you buy shoes for your trip, buy them fast and wear them to break them in.
  • 1 pajama: Bring something fun!  Satin pj's pack very easily.
  • 2 bras: One to wear while the other rests.  For extensive info on bras review the Bra Education section.
  • 2 socks: For a summer trip you'll most likely be alternating between shoes and sandals so you don't need a pair for every day.
  • 6 underwear: Just as with your socks, you can wash a few pair in the sink at your hotel for fresh undies.
  • OPTIONAL DRESS: Consider adding a jersey wrap dress (infinitely packable! I prefer black.) if you're planning on hitting church services or finding a fancy spot for dinner.
  • Watch & Jewelry: A simple, inexpensive pair of studs and necklace in matching metals work with any outfit.  Traveling is no place for your diamonds or tons of accessories to keep track of.
  • Oversized sunglasses: Don't bring your nicest pair but make sure they have UV protection. The oversize style will look chic and hide those jet-lag eyes.
  • A crushable hat: I prefer this style to a baseball cap because they're easier to pack, but bring whatever you're comfortable wearing.
  • Belt: One belt in a neutral color to go with all your outfits is plenty.  If you're not a belt wearer, skip it!
  • Pashmina: I'm not going to detail all the nasty things I have personally seen happen to airplane blankets.  A pashmina (preferably cashmere or a blend) of your own avoids the yucky and guarantees you additional warmth on the plane. It also doubles as a neck pillow.  Most U-shaped travel pillows push your head too far forward and are a pain to carry.  A pashmina is long enough to roll up one end behind your neck and wrap the rest across yourself.  If you really want a pillow, I prefer this nook style. 
  • A neck pouch: Do not bring a bulky purse to lug around. I have been traveling with one of these for more years than I can remember. It's super slim, slides under my shirt and I tuck it into my pants.  Hidden! The only thing you need to carry in a day is your cash/credit card/hotel key (usually a card nowadays)/ID/city map/camera.  Everything but the camera will fit in the neck pouch and you'll be virtually hands free.  If you plan on doing some shopping, toss an empty canvas tote or reusable shopping bag into your suitcase.  
  • Other good ideas: A mini MP3 player: not a basic necessity, but they're useful for tuning out travel noise and making the trip more enjoyable.  And they're so small now they take up virtually no space. Also much cheaper than an iPod, should it get lost or stolen. If you purchase one, go for battery operated! You'd never want to mess with recharging it with an adapter. Mine runs 70 hours on one tiny AAA.  Ear plugs: I put them in as soon as I get on the plane! Travel alarm clock. Travel journal and pen! Reading material.
  • Your camera!  A quick tip here - each night at your hotel, or when you have down time, delete unwanted pics from your camera and jot down the location and subject of each shot. It'll save you from the dreaded, "Memory Card Full" warning when you're trying to capture a great shot, and you won't have to ask, "Now where was this?" when you get back home.
Whew!  A mountain of information for relatively few items.  As mentioned, this was WHAT to pack.  The next post will deal with HOW to pack it.  I'll also cover your toiletry kit and some general travel tips. 
 
 
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Q: "Most of my week I'm an exhausted mom but my husband and I renewed our commitment to regular date nights a little while ago.  The problem is, I'm wearing essentially the same things I wear the rest of the week! All my clothes are mom-friendly, modest, and (I hate to admit it) pretty frumpy.  I'm not sure how I got to this point but what should I do about it now? I have limited funds to put toward a solution and want to spend it wisely.
Sincerely - K.,  
A:  I think we've all been there, K! One day you're cute, glowing and pregnant, the next you haven't worn much besides yoga pants and a t-shirt for weeks on end. Here are my best tips for reclaiming the sexy factor of your wardrobe.  I'm going to assume you have a pair of well-fitting jeans.  If not, those are an A #1 priority.  And make sure they're not these Mom Jeans!
I've listed the other items in order of "investment importance" - meaning if you don't already have it, this is where I'd spend your money first.  And the key style tip?  Do the opposite!  I'll explain in a moment...
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Nordstrom

1.  A Fancy Heel
I suggest a metallic heel in gold or silver, depending on your preference and skin tone. 
A metallic is a neutral so it pairs with anything! Jeans and a black top, a spring dress, fun skirt and cardigan - a metallic heel elevates them all to sexy date-wear.
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White House/Black Market - $34

2.  Chandelier/Statement Earrings
I like crystal and metallic because, again, it goes with anything and everything.  A metallic heel, jeans, black tee, and earrings like these?  Do you see the sexy sneaking back?

FYI - White House/Black Market is having a jewelry sale right now.  Click through from our Shopping Section.  WH/BM has great neutral options.
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Liberty of London for Target
3.  A little shot of boudoir.
Raid your lingerie collection for items with just a hint of sheerness or (if not sheer) a high enough neckline that you don't have to wear a coverage tee underneath it.  Try adjusting the straps to raise the neckline.  Doesn't matter if it's normally a thigh-grazing chemise - slip that baby on over jeans and under a fitted jacket and it's a very sexy tunic top!  Let something sparkly or satiny peek out from under a cardigan or blazer (buttoned for coverage if you need).  Your hubby will know what it is... and will love it.
I recently scored this little wrap number from the Liberty of London for Target intimates collection. It looks great with jeans or my dark gray skirt and heels.

Remember that "opposite" tip I gave you?  Here's what I meant.  One of the easiest styling tips to scoring a sexy look is to do the opposite of what you do during the day or week.  As outlined below...
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4.  Update your Mom Do
If your husband normally sees you with your hair down, wear it up for date night.  Normally up in a pony?  Wear it sleek and flowing with a deep side part.  Normally straight? Stun him with a head full romantic curls.

And consider whether it's time to update your style completely.  A razor-sharp bob can be easy with kids, and styles up very sexy.  Layers can lift a longer style out of sagging and dragging.
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5.  Learn Sexy Makeup
Another opposite?  Your makeup!  If you normally don't wear any makeup, your biggest bang for the buck will be to learn how to do a smoky eye.  It's sexy and does NOT have be done with black makeup, which can look harsh the older you get. I love a smoky eye in purples or browns.  A simple Google or YouTube search will produce hundreds of options for tutorials.  If you're near a Sephora or Nordstrom makeup department - pop in and have a makeup artist show you for free.
If you often wear heavier eye makeup, then go with a neutral eye (maybe just a little liner and mascara) paired with a bold lip.  It's the shake-up of your routine that brings the sexy here.
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6.  Dye a New Outfit
Here's a final tip - dye some of your items to score a "new" date outfit. If you have plenty of "mom-friendly" tops but are in desperate need of some date wear, don't be afraid of dying!  How about updating that stained white tee to a gorgeous deep turquoise?  New clothes - for about $2.  Gotta love that!
I hope this helps rev up your date nights!  It doesn't take a lot to turn simple into sexy.  And above all - it's HOW you wear what you wear that counts the most.  Make sure you put on that smile, which I'm sure is easy when you think of going out with your honey.
 
 
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Coco & her LBD

Q - "You and many others have mentioned the necessity for a "little black dress" but why? And how do I keep it my style?  They all seem to be so "little!"
A:  Excellent questions both!  To which I offer the following answers and examples.

First, the Why.  Everyone needs in their closet the "instant elegant outfit."  Something you can put on and never have to question how nice you look.  Because this outfit must be appropriate for all occasions it has to be a versatile.  Versatile is easiest when it's in the form of a neutral base that can be accessorized a million different ways.  Black is universally flattering - every woman in the world can wear it in some way or another and look lovely.  It's the perfect backdrop to anything you'd like to do with it.  And no, it doesn't have to be "little". 
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Coco Chanel created the LBD (little black dress) around 1926, officially premiering it in Vogue that year.  Her design was only "little" in the sense of "simple".  It was actually very modest - calf length, long sleeved and trim fitting but not skin tight, with virtually no embellishment.  Until that point, all-black clothing was mainly reserved for funerals and periods of mourning.  It tended to be long and stuffy.  Her simple design, dubbed "Chanel's Ford" because it was versatile and intended for every woman, like the Model T for every driver, was simultaneously a revolution and instant classic.


It's nearly impossible to find pictures of Coco wearing the dress, but I found the one above that someone took with a stuffed monkey.

Second, the Personalization.  In answer to your other question, I offer the many examples below.  (Click the images to enlarge.)  The LBD you choose should a) speak to your social life and b) reflect your personal taste.  For example, if your social life consists of lots of fancy dinner parties with your husband's company and clients AND you like a dash of retro, you might choose something like the dress on the far right below.
If your social engagements tend to be more casual (dinner here and there, a movie, but maybe the ballet occasionally) and you like something sleek you might choose one of the short sleeved options below, or the wrap dress on the right.  
You can find everything from a vintage party dress to something very avant garde.  Embellished to the hilt or a blank canvas.  Personally, I think Coco had it right.  The more simple the dress, the more versatile it is.  You can throw a colored cardigan over a simple jersey LBD, add some flats and head out to run errands.  Swap the cardigan for sparkly accessories and the flats for heels and you're good to go for date night. I have two in my closet. A simple matte jersey wrap dress that gets the most use, and a fancier, layered chiffon dress for really special events.
If you noticed, I offered up only modest options.  And I wanted to showcase a few below from Shabby Apple.  For being a small boutique shop, their selection of LBD's is nicely varied to fit many tastes.  And all are modest without you having to modify.
So yes, whether it sweeps the floor in satin drama... or kisses the ground with bohemian relaxation, you need one of these dresses.  Take your time. (You didn't have it yesterday so you don't need it tomorrow.)  Enjoy the process. (Your perfect LBD match is out there!)  Buy the best you can afford. (This is most definitely an investment item!)
  And once you have it - WEAR IT! Wear it often, wear it well.
 
 
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Q: I'm finally losing weight (for good this time!) and have lost enough that my clothes no longer fit or look good.  I still have more to go, but what should I wear until I hit my goal weight?
A: Indeed a conundrum and I'm not making a joke!  This is a happy but difficult time. (Don't they say the same thing about pregnancy, when your weight is going the opposite direction?)  I'm actually in the same phase myself and enjoyed compiling this answer for you.  It helped me as well!

I always research answers.  Looking for the best style advice available.  And weeding out the bad!  I actually read the suggestion that you should wear a "poncho" while you're losing weight.  Say what???  Sure.  Let's throw a broad expanse of fabric over our shoulders, hiding any shape, and let it fall down from one of the widest parts of our body, our breasts.  Great idea.  I don't think they realize that any tent-like shape will just make a person appear larger.  A poncho pretty much only looks half-way decent if you're a small person. 

One question we have to ask ourselves is, are we talking short-term or long-term weight you're losing?  Short-term as in, "I just had a baby and will probably be back in my previous clothes by the end of the year." or long-term as in, "I've been battling this blasted bulge for twenty years and I'm finally winning the war!"  Short-termers tend to have "skinny" clothes and little else.  Long-termers may or may not.  You definitely sound like the latter so I'm going to guess that, like most people, you probably have a range of smaller sizes in your closet.  So gird your loins and try on some of those smaller sizes! Do NOT beat yourself up if they still don't fit yet.  They will soon!  And if they already do, you'll be a happy camper.  You might also consider organizing your closet by size - largest to smallest - and work your way through them as you lose weight.

If you do find yourself needing/wanting to purchase some new items, consider the following:
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  • Wrap dresses! Wrap dresses!  Wrap ANYTHING!  Skirts, blouses, etc.  They get smaller with you by simply wrapping them tighter.
  • Tailor a little bit.  If you've dropped two sizes, take your best pieces to be altered.  It'll be less expensive than buying them in a new size.  Check out the recent post about Tailoring.
  • Avoid anything boxy.  Something that fits your shape now will look MUCH better as it gets a little baggy than something that was boxy and ill-fitting to begin with.
  • Don't spend a ton of money.  Depending on how much weight you still have to lose, you might have to repeat this cycle a few more times. (Target has excellent inexpensive options!) But don't think of the new items as a waste either.  Consider the clothes an investment in yourself (you deserve it!) as well as a donation.  You'll wear them very often then donate them where hopefully some other woman will wear them on her way to a healthier weight.  Pat yourself on the back for being a philanthropist!
  • Don't forget your intimates!!  That bra probably needs updating at this point!
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  • Wear what you have in a new way.  Button down shirts that are too big?  Go retro and tie them over a fitted tee. Cute! Or leave them completely unbuttoned and wrap them around yourself, crossing the button side over the buttonhole side, and tucking them into pants or skirts that fit you.  Very fashion forward!
  • Buy neutrals but amp up those shoes!! (Click here for my soap box speech about the benefit of great shoes!)  When buying those few items, keep them neutral and you'll be able to mix and match them into many more combinations.  Offset the neutrality with fabulous shoes in great colors!
  • Think Shrink!  Like the wrap dresses, think of pieces that will shrink with you.  For example, a light cardigan with not too much structure (as in not too fitted, without a complicated design) will hang straight now, creating a vertical line.  As you continue to shrink, you button it, then later, cinch it up with a belt.  Make sense?
  • Watch those accessories!  Accessories (just like prints) should be proportional.  Tiny, delicate necklaces & bracelets will emphasize your size in an unflattering way.

Set yourself a time limit.  This applies if you have nothing much in your closet that looks good.  If at the end of, say, 3 months, you haven't lost the weight you had hoped to, still buy something that makes you look good.  If you DID lose the weight you planned on, buy something in your new size.  Either way, you'll look and feel better.

And finally, you may ask, "Why not just thrown on the sweats or leggings and stick it out to the end?"  What you see in the mirror has a PROFOUND affect on your psyche, your self- esteem, and your attitude.  You've been working hard.  Rewarding yourself along the way will keep your motivation from waning.  Congratulations!  Keep fighting the good fight! 

 
 
Here's another great question we received!

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Q: Help! I have a funeral to attend but I don't want to wear black.  My sister passed away after a lifetime of battling illness.  Our family wants to celebrate her many victories, instead of mourning in dark clothes.  What in the world do I choose that will be appropriate?


A:  What a wonderful idea to celebrate her at an obviously difficult time.  I've never enjoyed black for funerals.  I guess I look for any small way to express joy for the person's life.  Sometimes dark clothing is the only appropriate option but in this case, where you've agreed as a family to strike out from the norm, I definitely see your dilemma.  Sticking with an overall conservative ensemble will still be the most respectful of the occasion but here are a couple of options to complete your look.

1. Something that was her favorite.  Is there a dress, blouse or skirt she always loved on you?  If it's conservative, pair it with a neutral piece and a piece of jewelry she gifted you.
2.  Something you bought together or matching.  We're not talking those matching Tweedle-Dee/Tweedle-Dum t-shirts here, but maybe there's a nice dress, etc. that you both loved so much you each bought one.
3.  Something in her favorite color or her favorite color on you.  Maybe she always loved it when you wore yellow, even though it was a big fashion step for you. 
4.  Something she made you.  Many people today make their own jewelry and other accessories nowadays.  Do you have a piece or two she did for you?  Choose a neutral ensemble that will really showcase that item.
5.  If all else fails, choose a conservative outfit that flatters you, and accessorize with her favorite flower.  And think outside the lapel!  Flowers will look beautiful and elegant in your hair or on a simple ribbon choker around your neck.  Even the retro wrist corsage is a chic option.

As a side note for those attending funerals but who aren't related to the deceased, take your cue for appropriate attire from the family.  Start by researching the religious and cultural systems of the bereaved family.  For example, Korean's wear white to funerals.  Buddhists frown on red.  Hindu's wear white if you're a member of the family, otherwise you should wear dark colors.  Many customs, including Jewish, require women, men or both to cover their heads so bring a conservative scarf, just in case.

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Q:  Yikes! I am turning 50! What is off limits for a 5'8" and rather slender and mature-- never mind the mature part, change it to immature lady?

Well, Happy Birthday!  50 is the new 40, you know.  And in your lucky case, probably the new 35!  You ask a great question that too many people don’t ask until they’re already looking frumpy and grumpy or even worse, are deep into trashy territory.  

Two things will age you faster than the sun – Mom Jeans and dumpy shoes.  If either of these style assassins currently resides in your closet then part of your 50th birthday present to yourself should be to replace them.  So with that said, let’s list the most important things to know.

Off Limits:

  1. Mom Jeans.  It bears repeating!  Please refer to the Mom Jeans post for why and what to replace them with. 
  2. Dumpy shoes. I worked with a woman a few years ago who we all thought “looked good for almost 60” and she was actually 43!!  Her frumpy clothes and hairstyle added about 10 years but the real nail in her coffin was her shoes.  She wore black granny shoes with Velcro straps! You know the ones – laces for nurses, Velcro straps for grannies but otherwise the same.   At the Christmas party, I saw her in a lovely pair of pumps and excitedly declared that she should wear them more often.  Her answer was that her “comfy shoes are just so hard to give up.”  Too that I say, “Then don’t start!” Until your feet declare war on every other type of shoe avoid anything remotely granny or nurse-like.  Keep the heels as long as you possibly can!  At 5’8” they don’t have to be super high to have impact.  Incorporate flats in fun colors.  Modern sleek sneakers (think Puma!) in fantastic colors.  If ever there was a time to choose sleek, fun, statement-making shoes, it’s now!
  3. Holiday sweaters.  Strictly verboten for everyone over the age of 10.  Revisit these when you’re 80!  (I’ll still say no, but we can revisit them!)
  4. Too-long hemlines.  Too short is probably not an issue.  For most modest dressers, the hemlines are too long.  And especially as we get older, those hemlines should hit that knee!!  It’s elegant, ageless, and extremely leg flattering.  Don’t worry about buying all new skirts.  Most long ones can be hemmed up to the better length. 
  5. Anything baggy.  From here on out it’s all about shape!  Get it, create it, fake it.  Whatever it takes.  For some odd reason, the older people get, the more shapeless their clothes become.  So, no oversize blazers, boxy tops, shapeless sweaters and dresses, etc.
  6. Anything with shoulder pads.  If the pads can be removed without the garment losing shape, fine.  If not – consider the item donated.
  7. Overly tweezed eyebrows.  Pencil thin or drawn on eyebrows are detrimental to looking fresh.  Fuller, well-shaped brows are much more youthful.  There are about a million tutorials out there on how to shape and tweeze your eyebrows but it’s not rocket science.  Click here for a general step-by-step. Another tip for filling them in – use powder!!  I like Stila Brow Sets myself (check them out here).  Powder is by far easier to apply and looks much more natural than pencil.  Stila makes super easy to use sets and they last forever!!
  8. Retro trends from your childhood.  This is a tricky area.  It can look great because you have original pieces or it can look like you never grew up.  If I’d grown up in the 40’s and 50’s say, I’d absolutely want to pull out my full skirts and nip-waisted shirt dresses and join the current trend, upstaging the newbies on the street with my originals.  But I might look a little silly.  My formative fashion years, however, were the 80’s, so I’ll never know the joy or trauma of fashion revisited.  Peg leg jeans and parachute pants didn’t look good the first time and never will.  There is merit to the adage, “If you wore it the first time around, you can’t when it comes around again.” 
  9. Dark lipstick.  It can so easily draw attention to the fine lines around the mouth.  Pale pinks and peaches (NOT lighter than your natural lip color) with some gloss will always look youthful.
  10. Old lady swimsuits.  That would be anything with a skirt attached! A classic one piece with bust shaping and support is the only way to go.
  11. No flannel nightgowns!  Not that the rest of us are going to see it – but your husband will.  And you will.  PJ’s are the last thing you see at night and the first thing you see in the morning.  Bookending your days like that leaves an impression.  Even Victoria’s Secret makes cute pj sets with short-sleeved t’s and fun printed bottoms.  And whip out the sexy lingerie every once in a while!  
Must Haves:
  1. Really great bras!  No matter how large or small the cup size – gravity will do a number on those girls!  Lift ‘em and love ‘em!  Find a nice, shape-enhancing bra with underwire and BUY SEVERAL!
  2. A great pair of dark wash trouser jeans.  Have I made the point yet?  At your height, watch out for short jeans.  When standing barefoot the jeans should just touch the ground.  That length lets you wear them with flats as well as heels.
  3. A splash of current trends. Wearing 20-year old clothes when you’re 50… makes you look 60.  And trashy.  As a slender woman you still have the figure to wear anything you want so keep up with the trends – just a bit. Never updating your wardrobe or incorporating anything new will backfire on you as well.
  4. Keep what you love – tweak how you wear it. Don’t lose the things that are unique to your personality.  For example, if your whole life you loved leopard print – just don’t wear it all over.  Refine it to shoes or a scarf.  If your signature color is pink – ditch the track suit from earlier years and get a nice, sleek, v-neck tee in that color instead.
  5. Break up the structured suit occasionally.  You probably have one.  It’s more timeless to pair the jacket with jeans and the skirt with a twinset or more casual top.  You want to keep folks guessing about your age.
  6. Don’t be afraid of brights!  Senior-citizen pastels (you know the shades when you see them!) start to creep into wardrobes at about this age.  Brighter colors will provide more contrast for your skin and hair, keeping you fresh and bringing out your eyes.

For more tips and tricks, there are two books on this subject that get quoted all the time; Charla Krupp’s anti-aging bible, How Not To Look Old and Style Evolution: How to Create Ageless Personal Style in your 40’s and Beyond by Kendall Farr.  Kendall’s I haven’t read yet but Charla’s is great. It’s chock full of pictures clearly illustrating the points she’s making and it’s a fun read.  Your library should have both.

You know what will probably keep you young the longest – that “immature” streak you mentioned. Saucy and sassy are key elements to style. If only everyone could stay fun as they age.  It would keep us all so vibrant.  Never lose that part of you and you’ll be in great shape.