Sincerely - K.,
I've listed the other items in order of "investment importance" - meaning if you don't already have it, this is where I'd spend your money first. And the key style tip? Do the opposite! I'll explain in a moment...
1. A Fancy Heel
I suggest a metallic heel in gold or silver, depending on your preference and skin tone.
A metallic is a neutral so it pairs with anything! Jeans and a black top, a spring dress, fun skirt and cardigan - a metallic heel elevates them all to sexy date-wear.
2. Chandelier/Statement Earrings
I like crystal and metallic because, again, it goes with anything and everything. A metallic heel, jeans, black tee, and earrings like these? Do you see the sexy sneaking back?
FYI - White House/Black Market is having a jewelry sale right now. Click through from our Shopping Section. WH/BM has great neutral options.
Raid your lingerie collection for items with just a hint of sheerness or (if not sheer) a high enough neckline that you don't have to wear a coverage tee underneath it. Try adjusting the straps to raise the neckline. Doesn't matter if it's normally a thigh-grazing chemise - slip that baby on over jeans and under a fitted jacket and it's a very sexy tunic top! Let something sparkly or satiny peek out from under a cardigan or blazer (buttoned for coverage if you need). Your hubby will know what it is... and will love it.
I recently scored this little wrap number from the Liberty of London for Target intimates collection. It looks great with jeans or my dark gray skirt and heels.
Remember that "opposite" tip I gave you? Here's what I meant. One of the easiest styling tips to scoring a sexy look is to do the opposite of what you do during the day or week. As outlined below...
4. Update your Mom Do
If your husband normally sees you with your hair down, wear it up for date night. Normally up in a pony? Wear it sleek and flowing with a deep side part. Normally straight? Stun him with a head full romantic curls.
And consider whether it's time to update your style completely. A razor-sharp bob can be easy with kids, and styles up very sexy. Layers can lift a longer style out of sagging and dragging.
Another opposite? Your makeup! If you normally don't wear any makeup, your biggest bang for the buck will be to learn how to do a smoky eye. It's sexy and does NOT have be done with black makeup, which can look harsh the older you get. I love a smoky eye in purples or browns. A simple Google or YouTube search will produce hundreds of options for tutorials. If you're near a Sephora or Nordstrom makeup department - pop in and have a makeup artist show you for free.
If you often wear heavier eye makeup, then go with a neutral eye (maybe just a little liner and mascara) paired with a bold lip. It's the shake-up of your routine that brings the sexy here.
6. Dye a New Outfit
Here's a final tip - dye some of your items to score a "new" date outfit. If you have plenty of "mom-friendly" tops but are in desperate need of some date wear, don't be afraid of dying! How about updating that stained white tee to a gorgeous deep turquoise? New clothes - for about $2. Gotta love that!